Question: Do you have any boundaries on what kind of questions you’ll answer? A bored boy is a bad boy. 🙂
Answer: Yes, I do have boundaries for my advice. I don’t advise on anything illegal, borderline illegal, or nonconsentual. I’m more than happy to help on nearly anything else, though.
It’s your second sentence that really intrigues me.
It’s like you’re insinuating that a bored girl just sits quietly with her hands folded in her lap.
I don’t know. Maybe I’m just projecting, but I’m going to go with it.
This is a false dichotomy between the sexual habits of men and women. All (fine, most) people want to be loved and understood on an intimate level. What you’re describing is a reductionist train of thought that dismisses women’s agency and desires. While it’s sometimes hot to think of men as the aggressors upon the fairer sex, I think it unfairly sets the burden of action on men.
Men — I’m going out on a limb here and assuming you’re a man — don’t have a monopoly on dirty thoughts. *Shines in my own spotlight*
And honestly, you’re also hurting yourself here. I mean, wouldn’t it be so much better to assume that your partner had as intricate a fantasy life as you do? Wouldn’t it be better to actually play in that playground, rather than foisting yourself on the female cardboard cutouts that seem to populate your brain?
Now, I know it’s scary and difficult to communicate with other people. But it’s worth it to get those nice brain chemicals from interacting with a real person.
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