Question: My wife’s clit is very sensitive, and I have to be careful about how I touch her when I’m trying to bring her off. I can relate to being extremely sensitive, but it usually happens after I’ve cum — a kind of torture. Is it the same for women? Is too much of a good thing not always a good thing?
Answer: Yes, but I think we’re talking about two different things, here. There is sensitivity before you cum, and sensitivity afterwards.
Sensitive Girl Bits
I, too, am very sensitive between my legs. I can absolutely relate.
When you are licking or fingering your wife, I imagine it can be frustrating to constantly hear her tell you “not so hard.” Trust me, it’s equally frustrating to have to say it.
But those feather-light touches are so fucking good. Harder is not better, here.
In my experience, I want to be teased with the very tips of fingers, the lightest brush of tongue. I want to squirm and beg for more.
I recognize that while you watch your partner get excited, it is natural for you to get excited, too. When you’re excited, it’s easy to get carried away and rub faster, or harder.
Please refrain; show some restraint here.
Let her tell you when she wants more. Even better, ask her. Make her say the words. Communication is hot.
The tease is the best part. Draw it out. It’s not a fucking race.
Post-Orgasm Torture
I am aware that, for a majority of men, cocks become very, very sensitive after orgasm. Continued touching is often too much to feel good. There can be a sense of power here, for the person palming that dick — one touch that brought so much pleasure a moment ago, now brings squeals of almost-pain, begging to stop.
And those cute, wide eyes from a man, so powerless against you. Of course, there’s an entire branch of porn that deals with this.
Is it the same for women?
Depends on the woman, as cliche as that sounds.
You should probably ask your wife. Does it hurt if you keep touching? Or if you keep licking, is she liable to fall over the edge again, into another orgasm? I think either scenario is equally likely.
But it’s impossible for me to say.
Maybe she likes those little bolts of near-pain, as you keep rubbing after she’s cum. Those aftershocks can be intense, and sometimes that’s a good thing. Maybe she’d like it was hot if you held her legs apart and kept going.
Then again, maybe she’ll want to punch you in the throat.
You should probably ask her.
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